How To Move On From Toxic Ex??
April 05, 2022, by Psychosexology W/ Gayatri
How To Move On From Toxic Ex?
You might have seen in movies that toxic relationships are addictive and that's the reason people find it hard to get out of it even when they are in pain. And when you or someone you know wants to get out of such toxic relationship, the only advice people will give you is to move on. But, nobody tells you how to move on? How to get out of that pain? How to do it?? So, if you're the one trying to move on from your toxic ex, then read this blog till end.
1. Move on physically.
Firstly, try to reduce the contact with that person. Stop checking their texts and social media. And engage your mind in other things that you enjoy. Your emotions are attached but your body isn't. You can have control over actions. Once you move on physically, you open up a lane for your feelings and thoughts to move on. Once you get used to living away from that person and enjoy doing other things, you will know that you no longer need that person to make yourself happy.
2. Understand you deserve better
The major mistake people do when they are in love is to change themselves for others in order to get loved and have a hope that someday their partner will understand their importance and relationship will bloom. And this is one of the reason why many people take so long to get out of that relationship. But, you need to understand that, you deserve healthier relation so rather than investing your time to make a toxic relation healthier you should move on. That's the only right way to save yourself from trauma and pain. Remember, you attract the love you think you deserve. So, if you don’t believe you deserve caring, thoughtful, attentive partner, you often attract toxic partner.
3. Clear your baggage
Try to knowledge and accept your feelings and understand that your feelings are valid. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is. Feelings are not your enemy. It's how you relate to them that matter. Rather than trying hard to change the person as you want them to be. Recognize and accept that they are not right fit for you. And find someone who is right fit for you.
4. Give yourself space to grow
Rather than all about the person you want to be with be the one you will feel proud yourself to be. Try to be the best version of yourself. Learn to be yourself. Find your own self. Only then you will get to know what you really want for yourself and then it will easier for you to decide if another person is the one you want to be with or not. This will help you to move on from your ex as you will find out that there is no space for your growth and happiness. Relationships are so powerful. So, surround yourself with suppportive people.
5. You are good enough
You might feel that there is something wrong with you when another person does love you the way you want get loved. But, this isn't right. Everyone has their own langauge of love. You can't force someone to love you or accept you. So, rather than underestimating yourself be with someone who will accept you and love you for who you are.
Moving on can be crucial but, it's not impossible if you give a try to. Love shouldn't feel like abuse. And it's totally in your hand to choose the right one who will love you in right way. Relationships shouldn't be painful but pleasurable.
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